When things look bad, feel bad, and continue to trend in a bad direction, it’s generally better to be an optimist than a pessimist. Not only does optimism feel better, it’s also healthier. BUT…there is a really big but to this… There are times when people view the future with optimism and excuse their lack […]
It’s easy to confuse self-control with self-discipline. Self-control is about stopping yourself, self-discipline is about pushing yourself. You have self-control when you can stop yourself from exhibiting undesirable behaviors. You have self-discipline when you can push yourself to do the desirable ones. Intuitively it makes sense that if you’re bleeding, you must stop the bleeding before […]
There is a common misconception that facing adversity is a good way to build up one’s resilience. The idea is that tough times create tough people. While I understand why people think this, unquestionably this is far from the truth. Adversity does not build resilience, it only test resilience. Resilience can only be developed in […]