Talking With Teens About Their Strengths Improves Relationship Quality

Today I came across some new research that reinforces my strong advocacy for strengths based coaching. Researchers at the University of Alabama at Birmingham “compared how often parents and teens discussed strengths and weaknesses alongside how well the two communicate, how much the teen discloses to the parent, and how close the parent and teen […]

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When Wrestling Parents React Emotionally to the Outcome of a Match

How a parent reacts to their child winning and losing wrestling matches is more impactful than one may think. A parent’s reactions sends a message about their belief system and what they value. For example, if a parent overreacts after a loss the parent is signaling that winning is everything and their love is dependent […]

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When High Expectations Turn into Expecting Perfection

It’s healthy for parents to hold their children to high expectations. Low expectations are a recipe for low performance and most parents know this. However, it’s important to remember that having high expectations can backfire. When expectations are too high it can turn into expecting perfection. You can actually crush a child by expecting perfection. […]

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