The Reason Why Parents Confuse the Nurture and Nature of Children
The epitome of trying to take the easy way out of parenting is telling a child to do what I say not what I do. However, there is no easy way out of parenting. There is only what works and what doesn’t. Moreover, telling a kid to do what I say and not what I do doesn’t work.
History proves that your children nearly always do what you do and not what you say. Furthermore, because kids nearly always do what you do and not what you say, when a parent fails to lead by example their bad example becomes the example they lead with.
This is the reason why so many parents confuse the nurture and nature of children. When a parent’s bad habits become the child’s bad habits it’s thought that somehow nature passed the bad outcomes of these bad habits through the genes. More often than not, nature has nothing to do with a child’s bad outcomes.
Instead, it’s the child following a parent’s bad example. Whether it’s bad eating habits, procrastination, anger or temper issues, anxiety, lacking confidence, or something else that leads to a bad outcome through habitual behavior. It’s not nature, but nurture that creates these behavior habits.
If you are a parent who doesn’t want your problems to become the problems of your children, skip the lecture and look within first. Simply stated, change your behavior if you want to change your child’s behavior.