Chris Mance II - Mental Skills Coach

Before you can decode the secret to success, you must accept that the secret is in mastering the fundamentals of life, not the complexities. Fundamentals aren’t groundbreaking, they aren’t sexy, and they won’t change your life overnight.

Correspondingly, most people ignore the fundamentals and seek out a secret that will change their life overnight. Then, after spending their 20s and 30s, and sometimes even their 40s and 50s searching for some groundbreaking moment that changes their life overnight, they find out that the secret to success was always there in the fundamentals.

However, the fact that the secret to success is in the fundamentals must not be disappointing to you. Accepting that all you need to find your secret to success is to find a way to master the fundamentals is a game changer. These fundamentals include all the obvious “secrets” you already know.

1. Purpose / Vision
2. Discipline / Consistency
3. Habits / Routines
4. Grit / Persistence
5. Resilience / Perseverance
6. Mentoring / Coaching
7. Emotional Intelligence / Mindset
8. Planning / Strategy

The Secret is in How You Use Self-Awareness to Master These 8 Fundamentals

It’s obvious that success takes all or most of these skills. What’s not obvious is how you go about mastering the utilization of each of these skills so each build upon one another.

For some people it starts with discipline and consistency that then leads to purpose and vision, which then leads to planning and strategy, which then leads to all the other skills. For others it’s the opposite.

While another group of people will be forced to start with a failure or tragedy that then leads to them developing resilience and perseverance, which in turn leads to emotional intelligence and mindset which then leads to purpose and vision which then leads to planning and strategy, which then leads to grit and persistence, which then leads to all the other skills.

Your job is to become self-aware, so you understand which path to mastery is the best starting point for where you are in life. Then focus on mastering that skill and the skills that naturally follow. If you struggle with discipline and consistency, then don’t force what’s not fitting. Eventually you will need those skills, but that’s not where you want to start.

This thought process applies to each of the skills. Start your path with what comes easy and avoid what doesn’t until another skill leads you there naturally. Only through self-awareness will you be able to do this.

Furthermore, if you don’t know where to start, then start with mentoring and coaching. Let a third-party advisor help you discover your path to self-awareness so you can then find the path to the next step and the steps that follow.