The Truth About Motivation, Confidence, Pressure, and Mental Toughness
The four biggest challenges for anyone who is struggling to get better are motivation, confidence, pressure, and mental toughness.
- Motivation: You know what you need to do to get better, but don’t have the motivation to change your behaviors to align with this.
- Confidence: You know what you need to do to get better, but don’t have the confidence to take the risk.
- Pressure: You start doing what it takes to get better, but have trouble dealing with the pressure of consistency.
- Mental Toughness: You start doing what it takes to get better, but have trouble dealing with the pain of consistency.
Overcoming each of these four mental impediments takes a tremendous amount of work. Moreover, every article or book ever written about each of these topics is part of the solution. But no single article or book is the solution by itself.
There is no one thing you can do to become self-motivated, confident, relaxed under pressure, or mentally tough. You must do many things, and this is the obstacle. Looking for a quick solution, magic pill, or a single coaching session will just delay the process of facing the reality of the real work you must do every single day.
Consequently, this is the point I want to leave you with today. The goal you must have when you read any single article or book for self-help must be to discover at least one thing to add-on to a process, not one thing to be the process. Your process will not be the same as anyone else’s process. Therefore, you will never find a complete process for self-help in an article or book.
That is the truth about each of these four challenges. Ultimately, you must be your own coach. A coach such as myself can help you coach yourself better, but you must commit to learning how to coach yourself better.