How to Know You Will Never Reach a Goal and What to Do About It
There is a simple way to know immediately that you will never reach a goal you have for yourself. This is a bitter pill to swallow and I hate to be the bearer of bad news. However, it’s better to live in reality than to live in a fantasy world. At least in reality you can make a change using facts instead of prolonging disappointment.
The reality is that you will never reach a goal you set when you only want what a goal looks like, but you don’t want what it feels like. You want to be a CEO because it looks good to be a CEO. But you don’t want the feeling of staying up all night for a week straight growing the company or averting a crisis.
Or you want to be an Olympic champion because it looks good to be an Olympic champion. But you don’t want the feeling of training pain, missing holidays with your loved ones, and sacrificing fun for work weekend after weekend.
Or you want to be a millionaire because it looks good to be a millionaire. But you don’t want to get up at 5am and stay up to 2am working, researching, and making the connections it takes to be the best in the world at what you do.
You know you don’t want that feeling because you avoid the work that causes you to feel that way. Furthermore, as long as you avoid the work that’s required to achieve the goal, you can never achieve that goal.
What separates people who achieve their goals from everyone else is not that they want it more than other people. It’s that they learn how to repeat the behaviors that help them achieve their goals. Even when those behaviors don’t feel good. Learning how to do this doesn’t happen overnight either. It requires a progression.
In short, contrary to popular belief it doesn’t always feel good to look good. You must come to terms with this fact in order to reach the goals that continue to elude you.