Watch What You Say Around Your Children
I know, I know. The title of this post is the quintessential start of a know-it-all giving advice from a soapbox. But just hear me out. I’m writing this as a reminder for me as much as I’m writing this as a reminder for you.
Yes, you and I both know that we should be careful about how we talk about work, relationships, and life in general around our kids. However, I wanted to share this short statement that sums up this point so nicely. It’s from one of my favorite authors Shawn Achor in his book that I highly recommend, Big Potential.
…pay attention to the way you talk about the stressful things in your life. When you get home, instead of describing your work responsibilities as annoying, frustrating, or overwhelming, talk about the opportunities they provide to build new relationships, learn new things, and raise your potential. Even if you don’t really feel that way at first, the language you use will begin to slowly impact your attitude and perceptions, and those of the people around you.
Ever notice that parents who are always grumbling about work have kids who moan and drag their heels about going to practice or doing their schoolwork? As parents ( and in the workplace) we lead by example. Make sure your words and actions are helping your kids, your teams,and even yourself see challenges as something to embrace rather than avoid.